In an effort to challenge myself and push my personal growth I have been trying to participate in activities/experiences that make me uncomfortable. One of those acts is going to events alone. Historically if I see an event that I would like to attend, I will ask a friends go with me. If I can’t find anyone to be my guest I simply won’t go. Continue reading
This week we have a guest blogger @ARoseEssentials to give you some great tips on self care and making through your work week!
As I sit here at work, doing multiple jobs at once. Tired, over-worked, always striving and never having a true ‘day off’, I realize just how important it is to practice self-care. Besides work, we have other obligations and responsibilities that take up our time and may leave us with little time to for self-care. Before you know it, you’re having a breakdown out of the blue. The human body is so well-equipped that it sends you signals that you need to take time for yourself. It may come in the form of a breakdown or an illness that forces you to stay put for a while so that you can heal and rest. Well, you shouldn’t run yourself into the ground and wait to breakdown before you start to focus on self-care. Here are a few (FREE!) things you can do to keep yourself centered, balanced, focused and most importantly, healthy.
- Writing: Please never underestimate how therapeutic it is to write down how you’re feeling. It can be a plain notebook or a beautifully packaged journal (I just purchased a hand-made moleskin journal wrapped in marbled paper from @_papel_ on instagram). I prefer nice journals because they’re inviting and makes you open up to scribe. There isn’t a certain method or writing guideline you have to follow. Just write what is on your heart. Whether you’re frustrated or happy, pencil it all in. I also use my journal to manifest what I need out of life. In my current journal, the very first page I wrote down a few things that I wanted to achieve. An exact year later, those goals came to life. That’s also another benefit to journaling. You go back and read prior entries for self-reflection. You have the ability to evaluate your growth and how you’re progressing. So pick up a journal and write your first entry today!
I am super big on self care and through practice I have discovered self care comes in more ways than just caring for your physical. One of the ways that I practice self care is buying myself weekly (or bi weekly depending on the money flow 😉 ) flowers. Continue reading
This past week I took an adventure to the Oakland Museum which is conveniently located in my hood to check out the exhibit on Sneaker Culture. I was really excited about seeing this because I have had a long standing love affair with sneakers and streetwear. If you have been following my blog for a while that’s def obvious. Due to this longstanding love I had abnormally high expectations for my trip. However It was low-key disappointing once I started my walk through the exhibit. I would say at best that this exhibit is for the occasional sneaker head who has a 101 knowledge of sneaker culture. Albeit there were some highlights like the Obama Air force 1 and every single Jordan ever made, but other than that it was like walking through a shoe store.
Style and Fashion is something that I have always had a connection to. I was having a conversation with a friend on Friday night and the subject of personal style came up and how that resonates with me. I believe for most of my life I have had a strong sense of ownership over my style. As a child I felt like that was the only thing that I actually had control over at the time. Like most kids I had to go to school, do chores, had extra curricular activities that I was forced to do (shout out to Chess Club and Soccer). Everything was planned out for me…naturally.
Photo by Me.
I have come to that point in my life where I look around and ask my self….WTF do I wanna do? What makes me happy? What would make me feel like I have a purpose and fulfilled?
At the moment I don’t have a concrete answer to that question. However I did want to start the dialog. Growth and change is apart of life and I feel like I’m on the cusp of a big one. Like that Christmas morning feeling of excitement because you know there is a bunch of good shit is coming your way. So in an effort to figure out what the “IT” is and get that spark back I am trying to find tools to implement into my life to propel myself forward.
One way I am helping myself get into this groove is an exercise that I learned while watching a Ted Talk
that Shonda Rhimes gave. In it she talks about taking 15 mins for yourself everyday that is uninterrupted. That means no phone, you’re not multitasking etc. Just be with you for 15 mins and then go about your day.As I was listening to her I realized there is not one point in my day where I do that. I am always doing something or many things at one time and not really thinking or checking in with myself. I thought this was a great first step to getting focused and figuring out whats next. Try the 15 min check in for yourself. Let me know what kind of results you get!